Friday, April 25, 2008

Close the door behind you as you leave?

What do you do when one person is spoiling something you love doing and you find it almost impossible to deal with it? Walk away is one answer. But that feels like giving up. Or stay and fight but I don't want to fight. Besides, this person is a far stronger person than I am and I would be on my own. I KNOW I'm over sensitive. I know I need to grow an extra skin. I don't know how to handle this situation at all. I have tried to be friendly. I have tried to stand up for myself. Both approaches have failed.

I think I'll take some time to think it over. I feel a bit despairing right now. Not a good state of mind to make decisions in.


Akelamalu said...

If you've tried both approaches and they haven't worked you need to distance yourself from this person or face your own destruction. That shouldn't be an option - tell them they cannot hurt you anymore because you really don't care about them or what they think and walk away. I wish you luck CG, it's not easy. xx

CG said...

Thanks, Akelamalu. That makes a lot of sense! I have done it before with someone far dearer to me so i know it's possible...just need to regain my backbone!!

Dianne said...

akelamalu gives good advice. when I read the post, before I saw her comment, I was going to quote my therapist who often reminds me to "detach" from a situation that I can't control or change.

you're a wonderful person CG, it comes thru in every photo you take. you couldn't see things that way unless your heart and soul showed them to you.

never let anyone ruin something you love.

I can't remember if it was Eleanor Roosevelt or Maya Angelou (they're soooo similar) but one of them said - "no one can make you feel bad without your permission"

artisbliss said...

I hope this will work out for you Julie. Sometimes you just have to walk away for your own preservation, if you can't set your jaw and put up with it for the sake of what you love.
(((hugs))) to you my friend.

Raven said...

I just hate it when life dishes out stuff like this. Why can't everybody just be nice.

I think others have given you good advice. Lately, I've taken to asking myself what the Universe is trying to teach me and what specific aspect of myself is being mirrored or aroused by this person's behavior.

I hope you can have your joy and detach from this person too.

Oh - and dianne - it was Eleanor Roosevelt. I went and looked up the exact quote (How did I live without google?): No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.

Melli said...

My answer is pray. And then listen. That's what I would do.

Love the green door.

Anna said...

I like the last one a lot but I LOVE this one!

Quiet Rage said...

Allow Quiet Rage to rip their head off and ..... down their throat!

Just kidding as I am not a violent person. The others are right. One thing I'm slowly learning is that to NEVER take anybody else's actions personally. How others behave is never about you. It's always about them. I know it's easier said than done. I'm still practicing it myself.