Wednesday, August 30, 2006

Bad days for relationships!!

Feeling grumpy? Well, today is the day couples are most likely to have an argument, according to a relationship expert.

The theory is that post-holiday blues combined with the end of the summer and no more bank holidays until Christmas conspire together to make August 30 the day tempers will fray.

Paula Hall, a sexual and relationship psychotherapist, said the arguments can be explained by a simple equation: Post-Holiday Depression + Financial Strains - Lack of Light/Domestic Chaos = Relationship Stress.

"By August 30, tensions have reached an all time high, as couples realise their summer is well and truly over," Hall said.

"This often manifests itself in bickering and needless arguments which is not healthy for the well-being of a relationship."


Thanks to YAHOO for that cheery piece of news!! It's lucky that P has gone to London today and won't be back until mid-evening.

He wasn't happy with me yesterday! He got home and I was on the phone, but as soon as I could excuse myself I ended the call - served dinner right away and tried to talk but he wasn't responding very well. Afterwards he went into the sitting room with tea and started watching a TV show he'd recorded. I pottered around a bit then watched another TV show with S. P went up to the computer room where he stayed for the next two hours, then came down to do dishes. Then I went onto the computer and at some point he must have gone to bed although he didn't say goodnight :( or tell me he was going. I missed him!!! It sometimes seems lately that we are never actually in the same room for more than half an hour at a time.

I know one of the problems is we both want time on the computer. I am happy to go on late evening but he doesn't like me coming to bed late. So we alternate during the evening and thus don't spend any time together.

I certainly have "end of the summer" blues. Now it's almost upon me I'm DREADING working that extra day! I keep saying "extra money, extra money!" but it's not really working. I'm already starting with the sick pains in my stomach and I still have over a week to go before it starts. I don't know why i get in such a state about work. It's as if there's some demon lurking there that I can't see but am afraid will leap out at me. Is this how paranoia starts????

There are times when I only feel "safe" at home or when in my own routine. I don't mean I'm afraid to go out as I'm not - I just want to be in familiar places.

Anyway, I am going to take Sian swimming so had better get myself moving.

5 comments:

Mel said...

I know what you mean about not spending that quality time together. Six Toes and I go thru it partly because of the boys. And then when they're off to bed at nite, he likes to play video games, which I have no interest in watching most of the time. Our desktop is in the living room right now, so even if one was on the puter, and the other watching tv, at least we were in the same room.

I say plan a date nite for just the two of you to have time together and talk. Now is as good a time as any to nip that lack of communication in the butt!

Kristine said...

My ex and I joke that had we had two computers in our apartment and we could Intant Message each other instead of talking to each other - we would probbaly still be together. Sad, but probably true.

Kristine said...

My ex and I joke that had we had two computers in our apartment and we could Intant Message each other instead of talking to each other - we would probbaly still be together. Sad, but probably true.

CG said...

Thanks for the suggestion, Mel!! After not talking to me much on Wednesday; on Thursday morning as I was about to leave for work he suddenly got VERY chatty and I couldn't shut him up! LOL

My idea is to get a laptop so we can both be on the internet yet still together but he thinks this is "sad" !!!

34quinn said...

great today is my hubby's birthday. haha...