Monday, May 05, 2008


Candles

I have spent most of the day doing housework and a couple of hours this evening editing my photos. I am cautiously happy with them :) Oh, I love wedding photography!!

My lump is even bigger and more painful - it's like a pea lodged under my upper eyelid. I actually can't open my eye very wide :(

Mrs Nesbitt was talking about friends on her blog the other day....I would like to tell you about someone very special. About 15 years ago I was a new mum with a very young baby, and I was very unhappy. Although Phil and I had lived in Helsby for 5 years, as we both worked full-time in other areas we spent comparatively little time in the village and barely new anyone. Suddenly I was on my own all day, unsure of what to do with my baby and feeling very isolated.

I used to dread baby clinic; all the other mums seemed to know one another and I felt very ham-fisted as I struggled to undress Kate for weighing. I got a sick feeling in the pit of my stomach each Tuesday before clinic. I scuttled in and scuttled out, afraid to meet anyone's eyes in case I saw criticism there.

Then one day I bumped into another young mum. She had the warmest eyes and smile I'd ever seen and she just launched into conversation with me. I didn't know it but I had just met one of the best friends I could ever have.

The years have passed and we have been through a lot together. Through her, I got to know other people in Helsby and now I have a group of wonderfully supportive girlfriends here. She is still my friend, even though I was once sick all over her carpet! She makes everything better. She makes me laugh. She did me the huge honour of asking Phil and I to be godparents to her second son. She is kind and brave, caring and talented, funny and wise. I can't imagine life without her!

She is the kind of person who does not know any strangers - she chats to everyone, all ages, and they respond to her personality. Just hearing her voice on the phone brightens my day.

J, thank you for being my friend.

6 comments:

picperfic said...

best friends are precious aren't they...I met one of my very best friends as I was looking out of my bedroom window and she was walking past the house and pointed to my overflowing drainpipe! I mouthed back 'I KNOW' in quite a cross way because the plumber (my ex)hadn't alligned the pipes correctly and water kept going everywhere! We do laugh about it now..

photowannabe said...

Beautiful thoughts on your friend J. We all need someone like that in our lives.
Pretty candle picture too.

Quiet Rage said...

Here's to Mrs. Nesbitt and to J! If CG loves you, than I love you!

artisbliss said...

This is a great post. I'm glad you have someone this wonderful as your best friend.

Akelamalu said...

It's wonderful when you find a friend like that I know. :)

Sorry to hear you're eye is so bad, have you been to the docs?

Dianne said...

J sounds like an incredible person and friend but I'm certain that you're easy to be a friend to :) even with vomit on the carpet, J probably hated that carpet anyway.

I love the candles - how you capture the steely colors but manage to make it feel warm as well.

Please let us know what's up with your eye.